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I Don’t Want to Hear It Anymore: “I don’t have TIME to shop, eat well, cook, waist train (you name it!)”

“The Lies Busy People Tell Themselves” said it all to me: we waste a lot of time worrying that we “don” have time” to do what we know we must: primarily take care of ourselves, and then take care of our families and loved ones–or corset waist train! I’ll never say that again after readying Laura Vanderkams’s article in the NYT Style section this Sunday! I recommend it to you.

The writer did a lot of time-keeping on herself and checked with others. She found she, and they, had a lot of time to do things she valued, despite being a very busy mother and professional. So …

Why do we lie to ourselves about not having enough time to do the things we find important in life and value?

           o    She says it’s because negative experiences (of being stressed out, late for an important project, working 90 hrs per week occasionally) stick in our minds. The good times are easily forgotten .

          o    We all like to see ourselves as hard working, not laggards. Thus, we tend to believe and repeat to others, that we are “over worked” and out of time.

         o   Professionals tend to overestimate the hours spent on work.

          o   We choose a high number of hours to say we’ve worked (and think we have) to justify our periodic stressed-out state and feeling, which is not all the time no matter what we imagine.

It’s not an unchangeable foible of us human beings. We can acknowledge this tendency now we know about it — and choose not to feel guilty that we “may” be neglecting our families, our health, and things that make life worth living! Most likely we are not and most likely we can find a little time. There’s no more excuse that you “don’t have time to corset waist train” and don’t have time on Sunday to shop for veggies and fruits and healthy light meats and “don’t have time to cook and prepare big pot of soup or lean roast and grilled veggies” which will last a few days during your busy work week.

You clearly DO HAVE TIME. If you value and have set corset waist training as a major priority in your life — and if you are focused on  improving your health first, your figure second, and your waistline size third (forget about dieting and the BMI or weight!), you have no supporter in me.

But you have a great supporter for moving forward in common sense ways toward health. I’ll encourage you to the max to try this fun and fascinating step toward health first: corset waist training.  Nearly everyone can do it!Snatch's corset

Chablis with plaqueCorsets are not just for Hollywood starlets who have just had a baby and want their figures back, and not just for social media stars who have impossibly curvy in-shape bodies already. Corsets and waist training are for us local, normal folks of any age and stage of life, any waistline size even up to 60″ waistlines and above, men, women, transwomen, lesbians, portly businessmen, classy socialites, club kids (as they say in England), Goth and steampunk devotees, tattoo artists, entertainers, drag queens, cross dressers and more–those of us who want to live long and prosper!

Here on the right is our drag queen corset client Snatch, from a few years back. Lovely white satin Victorian corset! She be styling on stage for sure! Left is our long-time lovely female impersonater/model and corseted client Chablis, looking fine. Check out Cheryl Shepard (crossdresser) modeling her BR Creations brown brocade classic hourglass corset for ROMANTASY, making a lovely hourgalss shape. Note Ms. Ana, our superb body builder tatooed corset lover from Arizona, in a dripping-lace black 1901 corset by True Grace (a treasure and non-duplicatable now since Mr. Garrod has passed)–she’s our adviser on all things physical and exercise in her realm.FCM - Men  Cheryl in BR05100

Burlesque cincherHere’s our Goth girl in a corset by Sheri, and young fetish model Somi Vichi in a leather corset by Sharon for ROMANTASY.  And below is Brian, one of our favorite men models in his amazingly tight-laced hot pink silk  corset by Sheri, one that has lasted him since 2005 for routine almost daily tight-lacing altho it’s about on its last leg now, some 11 years later. Talk about quality!Chinese silk Underbust by SheriCorsets and waist training are for anyone who has patience, and respect for the talents required by competent corsetmakers to create durable, comfortable, structured garments that will hold up to 60 to 90 pounds of waistline pressure and not rip, bend over, squench up, push up, dig in, wrinkle, and otherwise self-destruct in a few months of wear.

At ROMANTASY Somi BOB.3we welcome everyone! We’ll give you great advice on how to choose between real options we offer in terms of figure silhouettes created, corset styles, corsetmakers on our team of three, fabric and design options and more. It’s simple to order.

And we operate in old fashioned, personalized way. Give me a call: 415 587-3863 from 9 am to 6 pm PST and leave a message if I don’t pick up the phone. Consider ROMANTASY’s awesome 26 years plus experience comparing and contrasting various corsets, field testing each one, and educating about the differences. Opt for education first if you aren’t quite sure, and send me email: for my personal attention!






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Surprising News about Corseting re: muscle tone

I just had a client whom I’ve come to know on a surprisingly deep human basis over the past three years, ring my door bell. I’m not one to like drop-bys very much, and I typically require appointments before opening my door. Something compelled me to open it this time, and for a few seconds of ‘catch up’ I chatted with my friendly client who promised to soon call and make a formal appointment to be measured for his third corset. One quick result of corseting he wanted to report, however, surprised me even more than his visit.

Although he wears his corset occasionally underneath female clothing when he choses to crossdress, he told me he also wears it consistently every night. Upon rising he removes his corset and goes off to the gym for a regular exercise routine. He reported that lately he has noticed that he has developed better and more toned muscles, and disappeared his back soreness when he arises from sleeping on a waterbed! His theory is that the pressure of the corset at night when we tend to relax and spread out in bed, keeps his muscles taut and constricted, and in that sense, enhances body memory and tone of the muscles themselves, perhaps like the electric stimulation device that promises the same results? I’m not sure about the scientific basis of his theory nor is he, but the body memory part resonates with my own theory about one of the primary reasons that corset waist training works.

Does anyone who sleeps in a corset or wears one regularly, care to comment or theorize with us?


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So How Do Men Differ from Women as Corset Clients and Students?

Whether you are a ‘manly-man’ or a transgendered MTF, there are a few special concerns related to your body size and musculature that affect the corset you might order. It’s undeniable that compared to genetic women, men generally have more and stronger musculature than women, a shorter distance between the bottom floating rib (or ribs) and the pelvic bone, broader torsos and shoulders, and longer torsos.

As for the corset itself, sending in the widest rib cage measurement and not just the rib measurement under the chest (or where a woman’s underwire would rest) might be wise to fully inform your corsetiere. Also, decide where you wish to place your waistline depending on whether you want a female or male torso presentation when corseted. The woman’s waist is normally above her belly button, the male waist below. Anchor your vertical meausurements by placing a string around the waistline you desire to create with your corset which may or may not be the same as your narrowest part of your torso, and may or may not be where you normally wear your skirt or pants band.

Regarding vertical height, I’ve seen other corset sites recommend to men only a short cincher-style corset, that is, with a 9-10″ high front busk length. However, realize that if you don’t order the corset tall enough to rise to just under your chest swell, as you lace down, your upper ribs and flesh might or will push outward and become even more pronounced. That might be well and good for the ‘manly man’ desiring to create more of a Superman shape, but a real tragedy for the MTF who needs a narrowed torso to help create a more authentic female silhouette as well as better fit of female clothing.

Recently I saw the point made that men have less fat and flesh over the pelvic bone than do women, and thus, a corset made too tight on the bottom perimeter might lead to leg numbness and discomfort as the corset laces down. However, this is true for slim people in general, no matter the gender. This will not be a problem if the corset is properly measured and constructed to accommodate the precise dimensions of an accurate pelvic bone measurement. The operative word here is “accurate.” Jpg images as we request of our long distance clients, always help your expert corsetiere to verify that you have measured wisely and correctly as to that matter.

Can men train more or less effectively than women? What do you think?

I have a few pointers on that question based on my years observing my clients and my students in my waist training coaching program, both men, women, transsexual MTFs and crossdress MTF, of all ages and backgrounds. Men can be, and are traditionally thought to be, more linear and goal oriented than women, and so setting goals and pursuing them to conclusion might be something that will fall right into a natural process for men.  However, waist training is an endurance sport. It’s the marathon, not the 100 meter dash. Therefore, in many ways women are particularly equipped to waist train while men might tend to want to rush the process to reach their goal fast. Waist training is not about fast. It’s not about winning. Most likely Michael Phelps would not be very comfortable trying this type of corset “sport.” Waist training is about patiently enduring and focusing on the smallest of bodily signals, and gradually making progress.

Men aren’t that great at focusing on, much less admitting, bodily signals, especially those of discomfort or pain that indicate they should back off a particular practice. Yet tuning in to the body’s every message is precisely what is required for effective–and enjoyable–waist training. But women sometimes can go on and on about the most minor of matters, and turn into something of a complainer — and that won’t work either! For waist training, an ordinary amount of careful attention to the body is advisable, neither ignoring tweaks nor exaggerating them. Sometimes women in training need to just learn to bear up, grit their teeth, and carry on, but if they have borne children, then for obvious reasons moms above others may have the best shot at waist training success.

So can men or women waist train more effectively? I can’t say! We can surely educate ourselves as to what is required for any given sport or endeavor, and seek to make up for our deficits in order to accomplish our goals in that particular endeavor. Based on my experience, success in waist training is more a matter of keen motivation, setting waist training as one of one or two top life priorities for the training period, and being willing to take on a dedicated role as student rather than the eotist’s role as expert or teacher, that leads to the most sure success in waist training. Of course, a qualified, caring, and health-oriented coach can’t hurt!


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As the proprietress of ROMANTASY, I’m happy through the recent encouragement and assistance of my many corset-enthusiast business advisers and friends, to be posting my very first comment on my brand new blog launched January 9, just a few days past my 18th year anniversary in business!

Please note that this blog is limited to discussions about health-first waist-training. I hope to answer your questions and learn about your experiences and advice for the many of us who adore top notch corsets!


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