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Others can Support your Waist-training Journey; and the importance of those last pesky pounds!

I love optimistic news items!

I’m proud to be ‘a Pollyanna’ as my therapist BFF called me one time! How about you? If you don’t expect the best, then surely you will achieve and/or encounter the worst. That applies to everything in life, as far as I can tell. It clearly applies to corset waist training.

That’s why I love this July 24 Natchez Democrat news story about success in weight loss and health improvement, but this time, weight loss and better health without a corset in sight.

A church pastor weighing 308 lbs., decided to do something about his diabetes and weight—and he did it in a few short months, losing 70 lbs. He attributes his progress to many things, tho he now wants to drop 40 more pounds.

Of course–we wrote to tell him about how a man’s stays and our corset waist-training program and book Corset Magic, could help him shed those last pesky pounds–the pounds that are often the very hardest to drop. That’s one key place in a slow, deliberate overall weight-loss journey where corsets come in handy and can be quite effective. They can help with an extra “push” and extra motivation and fun, to deal with the final few pounds and reach your  goals.

FCM - Tim beltedIt worked just that way for Tim.  Tim was our third-ever coaching program student who enrolled in 2003. He when down from 210 to about 190 lbs by himself over 7 months, then in two more months lost a few more lbs. while waiting for his man’s stays (a custom man’s corset by our then-corsetiere BR Creations) to be constructed and delivered. You’ll see Tim pictured before and after a one year shape-up journey, in the seventh row right on this page and pictured in this blog.

The final three months of his year of weight loss, after Tim entered our program, he dropped another 4.5″ off his waistline and 17 final pounds to end up weighing 166 lbs!

Sure enough, Tim has struggled a bit over the last 12 years to keep control of his weight–but at every juncture he has re-employed some of the strategies and techniques we taught him, and re-dedicated himself to health, first. Continued contact with us and with his former Training Buddy, has helped him recalibrate to drop some weight over the years.

It’s instructive to read the above news story about the pastor, to glean what motivated and worked for him. His experience struck me as quite relevant to corset waist training:

“It’s really up to the individual, I have learned,” Green said. “You have to find your motivation. Having my wife (Suzanne) and my daughters (Victoria and Jessi) be so proud of me, that has really motivated me. I know that I can do this.”

The free program the pastor followed incorporates many of the key concepts in our coaching program, necessitating some, but not onerous, changes, and a “lifestyle” approach, rather than just a “one item diet” or “one perfect solution.”

Key for him, and for anyone who wishes to try corset waist training, is the support of others.

Bret, one of my esteemed friends and early coaching program student (2009), also pictured on the above ROMANTASY webpage, before and after his efforts to drop body fat content, feels as I do: organizing a consistent support system around you will almost guarantee your success (if you also set reasonable goals and are flexible in your definition of “success”; see prior blog about those two matters).

My new “how to” Primer book on the waist training process (due out for Kindle in late fall this year, or early spring), stresses the above point. Not only students whom I’ve interviewed, but their official and unofficial Training Buddies and supportive friends, confirm the importance of a “rah rah” section, to keep you moving forward. Here are some points from the book-in-progress (you may preorder now on the above webpage):

I don’t know very many people who have lost substantial weight while corseting, without having regular support and information provided by an experienced friend, spouse, partner, or coach. You may not need a lot of encouragement, but tight-lacer Marie Lourdes says, “Everyone needs a rah-rah section. Getting sidetracked is too easy in these uncertain times.”
A coach or buddy is not a radical suggestion. From the diet world, we continually hear this recommendation. The Journal of Nutrition Education and Behavior researched how a dieter’s significant other influenced success or failure (San Francisco Examiner, June 10, 2008). If the partner was helpful, even changing their own eating habits to lose weight, the dieter was successful. You’ve read earlier how Shane helped his wife in a similar way when she was a student. [He was a chef and changed the way he prepared their meals to low-fat, low-sugar, high-flavor.] Lynn found that “frequent email communication with Coach Ann was key to keeping me motivated and focused.”
You’ll likely need cheerleaders because waist training is demanding, much like competing in the Iron Man or Iron Woman challenge. You can “hit the wall” like a long-distance runner does, then benefit from an extra push along the way. Reaching your goal can be just as exhilarating to you, not to mention to your appreciative audience, as winning a gold medal at the Olympics to the cheers of your friends. In addition, it’s just plain fun to share your successes as you move forward.
Some days your body will rebel and not want to accept the corset. Perhaps you’re hung over after a night of indulgence. Maybe a lady has the PMS blues and typical bloating. Sometimes a cold or the flu has kept you in bed for days, or your boss yelled at you and you want to flee both the psychological and physical demands that tie you down. Maybe you haven’t been “regular” for a few days and your innards just won’t be squeezed until the problem is solved.
If you’re like many people and you try to waist train in private, you may get discouraged if no one appreciates your struggle and the results. Having someone to guide and support you—whom you can question, report to, show off in front of, and involve in lacing you into the corset or assisting with its removal—can encourage perseverance and help you feel less alone.
You might get confused over some physical reaction you have. You might feel lonely and perhaps silly to be pursuing something so unusual. You might even find it boring. Or you may just want to ask your coach a question—or complain about your coach to a friend!

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Have you used a support system in your journey to waist train? We’d love to hear about it!

 

 

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WHAT IF I CAN’T WEAR A CORSET TO WORK AND NEED TO WAIST TRAIN?

WHAT IF I CAN’T WEAR A CORSET TO  WORK AND NEED TO WAIST TRAIN?

If you can’t accommodate your work responsibilities or office furniture to the limitations of being corseted, you’ll need to find time to wear the corset during leisure hours or while you sleep (after about 20 initial wearings with you upright, so that you don’t permanently torque or twist the boning).

My former waist-training student, Bret, advises that if you have weekends off, try sleeping in a corset first on a Friday or Saturday night so Darcy in Br Creations corset for ROMANTASYthat if you lose sleep, you have another day or two to recover. When I started corseting, I couldn’t sleep an entire night, even when moderately laced. I’d wake up at about four in the morning with back discomfort, and have to take the corset off. Since I readily returned to sleep, the interruption didn’t bother me.

Even if you find it a nuisance, after four or five attempts to sleep thru the night while wearing your corset, you’ll likely rest comfortably. You need just a little practice and patience to learn how, and at bedtime you might start by lacing more loosely than normal.

Hours you sleep in a corset can be substituted for daytime corseting to achieve the day’s scheduled hours of wear, if you stay laced to the planned level. PH, another former student, said, “My primary purpose of sleeping in a corset is simply to train my body to accept the corset more comfortably during the day, and wear it for longer periods of time.”

There may be some unexpectedly pleasant emotional rewards if you experiment with logging your hours of wear during the night. PH discovered that he loved it. “I think the enjoyment of night time corseting, once acquired, has partly to do with an element of reassurance, namely, that one is always in contact with something else. This gives tactile pleasure derived from both light tension and from the extra warmth one feels around the waist, kidneys, and rib cage. I now find it pleasurable to sleep while wearing a corset.”

Have you tried it? Let us know if you have an tips to start the process or make it easier.

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Surprising News about Corseting re: muscle tone

I just had a client whom I’ve come to know on a surprisingly deep human basis over the past three years, ring my door bell. I’m not one to like drop-bys very much, and I typically require appointments before opening my door. Something compelled me to open it this time, and for a few seconds of ‘catch up’ I chatted with my friendly client who promised to soon call and make a formal appointment to be measured for his third corset. One quick result of corseting he wanted to report, however, surprised me even more than his visit.

Although he wears his corset occasionally underneath female clothing when he choses to crossdress, he told me he also wears it consistently every night. Upon rising he removes his corset and goes off to the gym for a regular exercise routine. He reported that lately he has noticed that he has developed better and more toned muscles, and disappeared his back soreness when he arises from sleeping on a waterbed! His theory is that the pressure of the corset at night when we tend to relax and spread out in bed, keeps his muscles taut and constricted, and in that sense, enhances body memory and tone of the muscles themselves, perhaps like the electric stimulation device that promises the same results? I’m not sure about the scientific basis of his theory nor is he, but the body memory part resonates with my own theory about one of the primary reasons that corset waist training works.

Does anyone who sleeps in a corset or wears one regularly, care to comment or theorize with us?

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Clothing for the Well-Corseted Man

John inquires about how to find well-fitting mens’ clothing for tight-laced men who are not transgendered. I simply don’t know, in major part I suspect because the great majority of my men clients prefer NOT to show off their trim waistline, and usually present the opposite questIon: “How do I disguise my new waistline?”

I suggest that the answer is the same for John as for any female client, and that is to find a good tailor who knows how to expertly nip the waistline of men’s jackets and take in slacks. Women must eventually do the same because even putting a belt over a dress will eventually result in too thick and bulky of a waistline with too many folds in the dress fabric as the waistline is reduced, resulting in an unaesthetic appearance or the impression that the dress is ill-fitting. I’d love to hear other answers or suggestions to provide further help to our blog contributor.

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So How Do Men Differ from Women as Corset Clients and Students?

Whether you are a ‘manly-man’ or a transgendered MTF, there are a few special concerns related to your body size and musculature that affect the corset you might order. It’s undeniable that compared to genetic women, men generally have more and stronger musculature than women, a shorter distance between the bottom floating rib (or ribs) and the pelvic bone, broader torsos and shoulders, and longer torsos.

As for the corset itself, sending in the widest rib cage measurement and not just the rib measurement under the chest (or where a woman’s underwire would rest) might be wise to fully inform your corsetiere. Also, decide where you wish to place your waistline depending on whether you want a female or male torso presentation when corseted. The woman’s waist is normally above her belly button, the male waist below. Anchor your vertical meausurements by placing a string around the waistline you desire to create with your corset which may or may not be the same as your narrowest part of your torso, and may or may not be where you normally wear your skirt or pants band.

Regarding vertical height, I’ve seen other corset sites recommend to men only a short cincher-style corset, that is, with a 9-10″ high front busk length. However, realize that if you don’t order the corset tall enough to rise to just under your chest swell, as you lace down, your upper ribs and flesh might or will push outward and become even more pronounced. That might be well and good for the ‘manly man’ desiring to create more of a Superman shape, but a real tragedy for the MTF who needs a narrowed torso to help create a more authentic female silhouette as well as better fit of female clothing.

Recently I saw the point made that men have less fat and flesh over the pelvic bone than do women, and thus, a corset made too tight on the bottom perimeter might lead to leg numbness and discomfort as the corset laces down. However, this is true for slim people in general, no matter the gender. This will not be a problem if the corset is properly measured and constructed to accommodate the precise dimensions of an accurate pelvic bone measurement. The operative word here is “accurate.” Jpg images as we request of our long distance clients, always help your expert corsetiere to verify that you have measured wisely and correctly as to that matter.

Can men train more or less effectively than women? What do you think?

I have a few pointers on that question based on my years observing my clients and my students in my waist training coaching program, both men, women, transsexual MTFs and crossdress MTF, of all ages and backgrounds. Men can be, and are traditionally thought to be, more linear and goal oriented than women, and so setting goals and pursuing them to conclusion might be something that will fall right into a natural process for men.  However, waist training is an endurance sport. It’s the marathon, not the 100 meter dash. Therefore, in many ways women are particularly equipped to waist train while men might tend to want to rush the process to reach their goal fast. Waist training is not about fast. It’s not about winning. Most likely Michael Phelps would not be very comfortable trying this type of corset “sport.” Waist training is about patiently enduring and focusing on the smallest of bodily signals, and gradually making progress.

Men aren’t that great at focusing on, much less admitting, bodily signals, especially those of discomfort or pain that indicate they should back off a particular practice. Yet tuning in to the body’s every message is precisely what is required for effective–and enjoyable–waist training. But women sometimes can go on and on about the most minor of matters, and turn into something of a complainer — and that won’t work either! For waist training, an ordinary amount of careful attention to the body is advisable, neither ignoring tweaks nor exaggerating them. Sometimes women in training need to just learn to bear up, grit their teeth, and carry on, but if they have borne children, then for obvious reasons moms above others may have the best shot at waist training success.

So can men or women waist train more effectively? I can’t say! We can surely educate ourselves as to what is required for any given sport or endeavor, and seek to make up for our deficits in order to accomplish our goals in that particular endeavor. Based on my experience, success in waist training is more a matter of keen motivation, setting waist training as one of one or two top life priorities for the training period, and being willing to take on a dedicated role as student rather than the eotist’s role as expert or teacher, that leads to the most sure success in waist training. Of course, a qualified, caring, and health-oriented coach can’t hurt!

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