Although some would say that anyone loving corsets and corset waist training is not in his or her right mind, I think that is precisely what it takes to be successful: a “right corset mind”! By that I mean holding your goals in the forefront of your mind no matter what, and not letting minor distractions become a grand excuse to fail.
The thought came to me after an e-conversation with our corset client/friend, Michie, who said: “I’ve been stressed lately. When I am stressed, I don’t lace up because I get these twinges. I am trying to be better about the tie that I am giving my corset. I will get back to wearing it everyday at the normal level if it kills me LOL.”
Her stress did not deal with a health emergency, job loss, death of a parent, loss of job, or impending move. It dealt with her son’s disrespectful and irresponsible behavior.
Of course we know that wearing a corset when stressed or not, will not “kill” Michie, but we do feel for her! Beloved ABC-tv reporter Robin Roberts says: “Everyone has something,” and we say that most assuredly, everyone has stress of all kinds sooner or later.
Stress can waylay our progress in training –perhaps moreso than for any other reason or cause for taking your corset off, including illness, holidays, and seasonable allergies or colds. Stress serves as a distraction from your goals, causing you to focus on something else, rather than where you want to go and why you are wearing a corset to begin with. Similarly, stress, along with hunger, have been the two major things said by many doctors to defeat attempts to diet.
Going off one’s training program is never lethal, however. What concerns me, is if stress is not used for a temporary respite from corseting, but is used to provide an excuse to quit the program and practice altogether.
As for waist-training program elements, I request not perfection (impossible~), but that my coaching students strive to implement 95% of the elements and achieve 95% of their goals as well, each week. Going off the program for a few days is fine since you can (and should) renew your efforts the next day or two and do more than what is required for that day, to make up for the loss.
But sometimes students have used a setback or some stress to relieve themselves of their original commitment to follow all the way through a three-month program, or the program they have set for themselves. In Michie’s case, training involves a one- to two-year goal.
Frankly, I don’t have any worries about Michie, because I know she is in this for the “long run” as we’ve discussed many, many times. She is clear about her long term goals of permanent weight reduction, improvement in posture and health, and a slimmer figure. Going off her program for even a week or two is not going to wreak havoc with her regime.
Yes, it may be a tiny bit more difficult two weeks later when she puts her corset back on, so perhaps she should back off a bit in the amount she laces down, or wear it a shorter period of time than normal. If the delay amounts to a month and then three months, accordingly it will become more difficult the more time that passes without wearing her corset. (The same thing happens when after training some months or years later, we pursue regular “maintenance corseting” or a periodic two-month “mini training program” to get back into good posture and appetite/portion control).
A fascinating fact is that at least two of my coaching students have faced major life stressors during a rigorous three-month training program, went hell-bent forward with their program concentrating hard on their end goal, and succeeded in reaching their goals. Both of them reported that they actually felt that keeping to the corset wearing and training program helped them survive the stress. According to them, the program provided continuing daily discipline and boundaries in their life when everything else seemed swirling out of control. One student lost her job midstream corset waist training, and the other was served with divorce papers (yes, due to her hubby’s distaste for her improving figure and distaste for her taking control of her life by corseting; sound like a poor ego and major control issues to you??).
So don’t assume that mid-stream stress you will inevitably encounter during waist training, inevitably means you have to quit your program or quit corseting all together. Quitting after minor or even a major stress most likely demonstrates that you really didn’t make a firm commitment to yourself and your health before you began. If that commitment has not been one of one or two top priorities in your life before you began, and for a specific period in your life, then corseting will go by the wayside no matter what distracts you.
While major illnesses or health emergencies may surely justify quitting because of physical danger in lacing down, stress is the least of the justifications to altogether quit corset waist training, to my mind.
What do you think?