RISKY BUSINESS – LIFE!
We all take risks in life. Some risks are greater than others.
Years ago when I was in my early 50s I met a sky diver. After hearing how much he loved it, I decided I wanted to sky dive, too. I told my therapist girlfriend that I might have gone ’round the bend because I wanted to sky dive, had found a long-time dive center nearby where I was going to take classes, and was actually going do it.
She replied: “Ann, you are not crazy. There are many risks in life. You are minimizing risk by taking the necessary pre-jump classes at an experienced jump center, and making an informed decision. Thus, you are taking a risk yes, but a calculated risk in life. “
And so I did. And so I jumped. The first time I jumped attached to the front of my instructor. I loved it so much I went back for another, longer class then jumped by myself. That is, “by myself” — after going out of the plane with the instructor holding onto my sleeve until I pulled my rib cord — just to be sure I had not passed out. I got myself down without incident and felt quite exhilarated by the experience.
I’ve always been glad for that experience. In great part that is because I live life as some do not: I don’t want to look back on my deathbed and regret what I did not do in terms of taking calculated risks– risks attendant to enjoying life and paying attention to my overall good health.
What does this have to do with corseting and waist-training to improve one’s posture and perhaps lose some weight or trim down a bit? Quite a bit. It also has to do with life and making those inevitable choices in our activities of daily living. Corseting is one of those choices entailing some kind and some level of risk.
But nearly everything we do contains some risk. Even stepping out of our front door and across the street entails risk, or getting behind the wheel of thousands of pounds of steel and wheels on freeways with irresponsible folks whizzing by talking on cell phones and zipping in and out. I see it every day around San Francisco. We all take risks of greater or lesser inherent danger. If we are smart and don’t want to live the life of a hermit or recluse, we get as much information as we can to reduce those risks. We don’t pursue something that will surely or probably result in damage to us or others. We seek responsible, experienced sources of information and guidance. We do our homework first. In other words, we take “calculated risks.”
Recently I heard that some online commentator on corsetry apparently claimed that her girlfriend of unspecified age was a corset fan. She was “slightly obese” , yet she was said to be 50 lbs. overweight. I imagine that most of us would consider that quite a bit overweight and not very “slight” at all.
Her girlfriend with an unspecified health history, corseted with an unspecified corset for an unspecified time, waist trained in some unspecified manner for an unspecified length of time, had some kind of unspecified waist-training guidance or advice by some unspecified person or source (her mom was a corsetmaker, and most likely did contribute at least some experienced advice to her daughter and likely made the offending corset), her liver ruptured, and the girl died. At the ER room or later, “corset training was determined to be THE (emphasis added) culprit.” No other culprit was listed, not even the 50 lbs of overweight.
Curiously, even with that pronouncement by an unspecified doctor of unspecified qualifications and no specified knowledge about corseting practices, “no charges were pressed since no one was directly at fault .”
According to this writer (if my informant is correct about the online posting), her friend’s corseting practices caused pressure on her liver which ruptured, and corseting is more dangerous to women’s organs than pregnancy because internal organs move in unspecified and unpredictable kinds of ways.
I am awaiting response from several medical consultants to ROMANTASY on the above matters based on their experience, research, education, and the probability of these claims. Anything is life is “possible,” but reason should compel us to look for probabilities if not medical certainties, in order to determine where to spend our money and effort in calculating our risks and choosing and pursuing activities in which to engage.
First, let me express compassion for the online commentator, who is obviously in a state of deep and understandable grief over losing her beloved friend.
Sometimes deep grief can cause great anger and irrational striking out in the search any possible cause for our loss. Sometimes we grab onto any easy explanation, rather than let emotions subside and examine the facts and weight of authority. We might glom onto the exceptional circumstance to find reason for our loss, and extrapolate that to everyone. This could be one of those times.
Second, I’ve never heard of such a death attributed directly or indirectly to corseting practices in modern times, at least over the past 25 years. Not in all my 25 year of personal corseting and occasional waist training, nor in my 24 years of studying corseting, waist training, and purveying corsets plus coaching about 30 students in the practice, have I heard of such a result.
As one experienced European tight-lacer told me, any health problem that exists pre-corseting, will exist and possibly be affected post-corseting. But “affect” does not necessarily and in all cases, mean negative affect.
Witness a letter that came in today from a client coming back to order her second corset and continue with her self-motivated waist training. I set it forth below in whole because it is in the nature of what I typically hear back from my clients and students, and what I have personally experienced.
Above all, I hope that discussions online and in real time about corseting and waist training will remain factual, not merely opinionated and possibly ill-founded or based in mere possibilities, disregarding the inherent risks in just living. I hope that facts and calm heads will prevail, but expect it will not always be so even if corseting is more ubiquitous today with more enthusiasts than have existed for some time after the corset’s near-demise around the time of World War I.
“I’ve really been loving my corset! (Ed note: delivered mid February 2014 two months ago
) I’ve attached some
photos. So far I’ve lost about 13 pounds and I’m getting close to being able to completely close the corset
“I think a lot of my weight loss has to do with the corset, although I will say I’ve been pretty stressed the last couple weeks and haven’t really been eating much. I have struggled with a binge eating disorder for most my life and I put a lot of pressure on myself as far as body image. I’m finding wearing the corset though really frees my mind. I like the way I look in the corset and I haven’t been obsessing about my weight. This is huge for me so I think in that way the corset has had a significant effect on my weight loss and bringing piece of mind. I also really love the support it gives. Also I have problems with my posture and pain in my tailbone from sitting. I have found when I wear the corset I still tend to slump my shoulders a bit but I can sit now without pain in my tailbone, which is amazing!!
“I’ve been wearing my corset all day from morning until I go to bed at night. Although just last week I went back to a previous job I had, which is working as a stable hand, and I don’t want to get my corset dirty. I’m thinking though I might wear it at work anyway. I really need the back support, especially since I have had some back injuries from the manual labour. After I take a shower from work though I put on my corset and wear it until I go to bed, which is about 5 to 6 hours. I’m thinking though, like I said, I might just start wearing it to work anyway…or else I’ll probably wear it to bed if I don’t wear it at work so I can get in more hours.
“I measured my natural waist, which is high and on the bottom of my ribs, without the corset and it’s down (in under a year) to 29 inches, I think before it was 33 inches, and my squishy waist right above my belly button, where the corset waist is, is down to 30.5 inches, before it was 34 inches. With the corset on my waist is 28.5 inches. (Ed note: this is a very moderate and sensible 2.5″ reduction!)
“I really would like to stick with Sheri for my next corset. It so comfortable and perfect for me. I would like the back raised two inches though for the toothpaste, and I think it would help more with my posture. I also think the bottom could be lowered about a half inch to an inch…I realised the picture with the skirt didn’t really show where the bottom fell. When I sit down, there’s a little bit of pooch that sticks out on the bottom.
“I would like to order pretty much the exact same corset from Sheri, only with some minor adjustments and obviously sized down. My middle is still pretty squishy, but at least not as squishy as it was. I think once I get to my third corset I might want to look into a prettier corset, I’m pretty focused right now on my corset being “a work horse”.
“I’m ready to order my next corset now so it arrives by the time I’m ready for it. What else do you need from me to order?
“I really am so happy to have discovered corseting…I can’t imagine not wearing one now. Kind regards, E.”